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Male and Female Created He Them

Are we enjoying the differences or do we resent them?

Genesis 1:27: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

God created males and females different for slightly different purposes. Some of His purposes are for both males and females. Some are just for one and some just for the other. A husband and wife are intended to be a cooperative team serving the Lord and raising children who will serve Him. Children are better off morally and spiritually when they have both parents. They are better adjusted and live more fulfilling lives especially when both parents have a right relationship with the Lord. God created husbands and wives to be partners, not adversaries. He created them to be a blessing to one another. God has not created one greater than the other, just different. Being envious of some function God has for the other sex is sin. Husbands and wives spend altogether too much time and effort trying to be in charge of their marriages for selfish reasons. They both forget who is really supposed to be in charge, God Himself. Trying to make marriage something different than God wants it to be is rebellion against Him.

Ephesians 5:22: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.

Ephesians 5:25: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

When God*s pattern is not followed the leader in a marriage will be the most willful, domineering and stubborn partner. It can be an unsaved husband or wife. Sometimes women*s libbers covet the leadership positions that God gives to men but they aren*t interested in making the sacrifices required of the men. A husband who is obeying the Lord will sacrifice himself for his wife. John Hagge: A wife should submit herself to her husband*s lead. A husband should submit himself to his wife*s need. We need to give ourselves to the Lord whether we are male or female.

Romans 12:1: I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

The most important thing men and women ought to have in common is their relationship with the Lord. A husband who leads his wife for selfish purposes or abdicates his responsibility is NOT in a right relationship with the Lord. A wife who is not submissive to her husband is NOT in a right relationship with the Lord.

Galatians 3:28: There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Only males could be priests in Israel. Males cost more to redeem. Often when a poll was taken in the Old Testament they were only to count the males. It was only the men that went to war. (We should learn that today.) In war time it was all of the males but just some of the females that were killed by the victors.

In marriage there cannot be two leaders at once. A good leader will lead his follower to blessing and to God*s will. He will enjoy the fact that his follower will have wisdom and knowledge about some things that he himself does not have. He will designate his authority in those matters. He will use the follower*s wisdom and knowledge in his decisions. It is infinitely easier to be a follower when one knows that the leader has the best interests of the follower in mind.

1 Peter 3:7: Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Women should not marry men that do not want to lead according to God*s will. (Unbelievers or carnal Christians.) Men should not abdicate their responsibility to lead, nor should they marry rebellious or contentious women. A husband needs to be a good leader not just for his wife*s sake but his own. A wife who does not have a husband who is a good leader can still follow the Lord perfectly and be fulfilled. A husband being a good leader should flow from his having a right relationship with the Lord. A wife needs to be a good follower not just for her husband*s sake but for her own. A wife can be a good follower whether or not her husband is a good leader. Her being a good follower should flow from her being in a right relationship with the Lord. They both need to be right with God before they can be right with each other.

Fulfillment does not necessary come from having a submissive wife or a wise and loving husband. Fulfillment comes from the Lord. The Lord can give fulfillment through a submissive wife or loving husband or in any other way He chooses. A husband needs to be a good leader more than he needs a submissive wife. A wife needs to be a submissive wife more than she needs a wise and loving husband. It takes a wise woman to see the value of a wise and loving husband who leads her according to God*s blueprint and it takes a wise man to see the value of a submissive wife who obeys the Lord.

In our society we focus too much on the outward appearance of people. The most beautiful adornment a woman can have is to be in subjection to her husband. A Christian man would have to be uncommonly stupid to leave that kind of a wife. It would take a non-Christian man or a non-practicing Christian to abuse that kind of a wife.

1 Peter 3:1-4: Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

One key to marriage is the same as in other relationships. We are to value the other person above ourselves. A husband can have a higher esteem of his wife than of himself and yet be her leader. It is easier for a wife to be submissive to a husband she esteems. Being married does not exempt any of us from the following commands.

Philippians 2:3: Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

Romans 12:10: Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

Ephesians 5:21: Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

Genesis 2:18: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

There ought to be one man that each woman finds more interesting than any woman she knows. There ought to be one woman that each man finds more interesting than any man he knows. A man is more complete and more fulfilled who has a wife. A woman is more complete and fulfilled who has a husband. A husband and a wife can accomplish more and have a better life than a man or a woman alone. A husband and a wife can be happier and more fulfilled when they have children.

1 Peter 3:7: Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

We have all heard of a marriage made in heaven. They are made there but the problem is that we drag them through the mud here on earth. I have seen marriages that seem to have been made in hell. Whether we have dragged our marriages down or they originated at the bottom, God is able to heal them and make them what He wants them to be.

The Bible does not just discuss the marriage relationship in passing. It goes into great detail in many other related passages.

Matthew 19:6: Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

1 Corinthians 11:7-12: For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.

Ephesians 5:28-33: So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Colossians 3:18-19: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Titus 2:3-5: The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

1 Peter 3:5-7: For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

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